Self-skills fluctuation theory

How about we consider the idea that the below can be described as self-skills?

• Self-awareness
• Self-confidence
• Self-esteem
• Self-belief

Lets also assume that our self-skills can "fluctuate" up or down depending on one or more of the following conditions.  Our emotional state, our level of energy, our awareness of the situation we face, our previous experiences of similar situations, how we behaved in the past and our perception of weather or not we were good/bad, unsuccessful or successful.

OK, lets test this "fluctuation" theory - does it work with each of the self-skills listed above?

Self-awareness

Most people will recognise that when times are tough and we become stressed we are far less able to manage our emotions or hear our intuitive voice and therefore less capable of making clear well thought through decisions or behaving in a rational way.  Equally most people will recognise times when the opposite applies and we are feeling exceptionally connected and aware of our thoughts, feelings and behaviours.   

Self-confidence

Our emotional state can have a significant impact on our level of confidence.  Sometimes when looking at a task we think it appears to be difficult, however we may revisit it at a later time when our emotional state and attitude is better and the previously difficult task now appears easy!  Additionally when faced with something we have not experienced before we will rightly be less confident in our abilities than we would be if faced with a situation we have previously experienced and succeeded at.  Equally when faced with a situation that we have experienced before and did not do well at extra levels of energy are required to motivate ourselves to overcome the destructive thoughts and feelings of lack of confidence in our ability.  Finally we all recognise that when we are faced with a situation that we "know" we can succeed at because our past experiences proved to us that we have the talent to do so we enter into that situation in a positive, motivated confident way.   

Self-esteem

We all know that each time we do something that makes us feel bad about our own behaviours and actions we take a little bite out of our self-esteem and each time we do something that makes us feel good we enhance our self image and build our self-esteem. The more self destructive activities we engage in the more we begin to dislike ourselves and the more emotionally unbalanced we become.  We all know that the more we engage in activities that result in us feeling good about ourselves the more we build our self-esteem and a constructive personal emotional state.  

Self-belief

Even when we have succeeded in the past at an activity and when faced with the same activity again our "inner voice" can fight us and present arguments to us proposing reasons why we will not succeed this time attempting to destroy our self-belief.  When we allow our emotional state to influence our belief about our abilities inertia, procrastination, de-motivation and lack of action are the result.  Conversely, when we truly "believe" we can achieve at a specific activity we run head long into it with high energy, full of the belief that we will succeed.  

I think there is an additional issue worthy of discussion to act some way to consolidate the above fluctuation theory.  I’d like to propose the thought that self-skill fluctuations can sometimes be extreme and other times be moderate and that the presence or absence of the self-awareness self-skill dictates the direction and size of the fluctuation.

By way of one possible explanation to the above thoughts I offer the following:

We have all met people who appear to have significant mood swings, one moment they appear extremely happy and the next they appear upset or angry or some other contrasting emotion.  Equally we all know people who seem very much the same all/most of the time, they appear emotionally balanced.  Is it therefore a possibility that the more self-aware a person is the more they are able to recognise their self-skill fluctuations, the more they are able to control them and the more emotionally balanced they become? Does this also mean that there is a link between self-awareness and emotional intelligence (EQ)?